I began this post headed in one direction, only to abruptly turn in another.
My hope was to expose the myth behind the Christian claim that there’s, “Freedom in Submission.” The Christian Model for Marriage as it’s outlined in Ephesians 5 was to be my starting point.
But midway through, I stopped, closed my computer, and took my dog for a walk. I realized I was getting choked by the weeds.
When talking about any bible doctrine or theology, weeds are inevitable. Until the book itself is discredited, there’s no escaping long diatribes in defense of its teachings.
One need only do an Internet search of terms like, Christian Model for Marriage or Godly Husband or Godly Wife to see how convoluted and complicated this topic truly is. Trying to make sexism NOT look like sexism takes a lot of words and re-defining of terms.
I don’t read Greek. I can’t examine the copies of copies of copies of the original Greek text to uncover some gem that explains why I’m subjugated. All I’m qualified for is to explain what this doctrine did to ME psychologically.
So I bailed on making an argument. Instead, I asked myself, “Why do so many women defend the Ephesians model for marriage ignoring the blatant sexism at its core?”
Having been in that culture for so long, it simply comes down to this. To many Christians…
- The bible is the ultimate guide for Christian living
- The bible is the inspired Word Of God
- The bible is trusted by their leaders who say to trust it, so they do
- Rejecting bible teachings is an unrecognized option
Therefore, Women will continue to be subjugated and taught to like it and males will continue believe in their God-Given supremacy.
Why would they look for a better model for marriage when the God of the universe already outlined one that’s ‘perfect’?
Women are not equal in our society and we never will be as long as the Bible is the gold standard for enough influential people.
We all see how Christianity has wormed its way into the lives of believers as well as unbelievers. It has a death grip on society as a whole.
- Presidential candidates are practically forced to pledge their belief in the Christian God… Even if they don’t truly believe.
- We swear on the bible in a court of law… Even if we think the book is rubbish.
- Children are taught to say, “One nation, under God,” when they recite the Pledge of Allegiance… Even if they aren’t Christian.
- “In God WE Trust” is stamped on our currency… even though I am the WE to which it refers and yet do not trust the Christian God.
I have no idea how we break the bible’s grip. My blog isn’t going to make a ding in that armor. And it won’t make a ding in the arguments against the Christian Model for Marriage, either. But this post has made me re-think the purpose of this blog. That’s the unexpected turn around the corner.
I thought I knew why I wanted to start this blog. But now, I’m not so sure of its purpose. Am I purging what’s left of the angst? My approach isn’t going to attract Christians who don’t want their faith challenged, so why’d I put my story out there?
When I was 17 and baptized in the holy spirit, I wanted to shout my love for Jesus from the housetops.
Now that I’ve given Jesus the heave-ho, I’m feeling that same desire. To shout to the world that I’m free of the patriarchy. Free of the nonsense. Free of the God who’d subjugated me.
Maybe that’s all this really is. A way to shout without blowing my cover in my little corner of the world. It’s a “coming out” of sorts, without the full exposure. And now that I’ve done that, maybe there’s no more posts left to write.